Confidence is one of the most important, foundations cornerstones a child needs as the roots for successful adulthood. Though it sounds like (and it is) a heavy responsibility, it is unavoidable if you would like your child to grow into a responsible and independent adult. Building confidence can be done with great grace and wisdom by caring second and third party adults who care to nurture this critical attribute in children. Below are The Ten Commandments To Building Confidence In Children.
1. Create Time To Listen
Kids will always have something to say. If you set aside some time to listen to their problems, thoughts, and experiences, you not only get a chance to help them overcome by being there, but also give their sense of importance and belonging The ability to listen, without administering advice or solutions, is pivotal in helping a child grow his own sense of confidence. Your listening says, no shouts, to your child, "I am important enough to be heard."
2. Stand Behind Them
Confidence comes when you know that someone stronger than you has got your back covered. This is especially the case for kids. To help their self esteem and confidence solidify, your child must know that you are there for them. Create a clear policy, "When you tell me the truth, I will always stand behind you," and stick to it. That way your child, when dealing with small childhood issues and later when dealing with potentially more complicated teenage and young adult issues, will know that he can always turn to you for support. get onto its feet, ensure that you give them the emotional support needed (in terms of love) and always standing by their side no matter what they do.
3. Involve Children In The Decision-Making Process
Confidence comes with the power to make right decisions. Expose children to gradual decision making activities, and give them the opportunity to build the belief that they can make workable decision.
4. Establish Necessary But Reasonable Limits
To build confidence in children, you have to give them something to work with. Set rules that should be obeyed to determine their levels of responsibility. Remember to discuss your logic with them when sharing the rules. It makes them feel involved and important., and further develops their self confidence.
5. Give Room For Mistakes
We learn by mistakes, and so do kids. Avoiding sharp rebuke to any mistakes gives the child the confidence to give the task at hand another try. This builds the spirit of persistence, hence more confidence.
6. Reward Achievements Accordingly
Also known as positive motivation, rewarding achievement accordingly gives children something to look forward to upon winning a challenge. This is important when you want to build confidence in children way down on the ladder. It is important to note that the best 'rewards' we can give our children is the ability to be proud of themselves, followed by praise, and lastly by material goods.
7. Avoid Making Comparisons
While many parents and educators feel that comparisons encourage competition, it is actually one of the most detrimental things elders can do to a child's confidence. Allow your child to be the best he is meant to be, the best he can be, not conditional to anyone else. This will build his self-confidence.
8. Always Encourage The Child To Do Something New
It is by venturing into new stuff that we garner courage and the belief that we can handle anything that life throws at us. Encouraging kids to try something new expands their knowledge and builds their confidence.
9. Create Opportunities For Children To Present Themselves In Public
Public exposure is crucial in creating crowd confidence. By getting children used to standing and making presentations, playing an instrument, or participating in an activity before an audience, you give them the chance to gather self confidence. It takes self esteem to stand in front of peers and tell them something.
10. Pay Attention To The Child's Entirety
Finally, in building a child's self confidence, as parents and educators, we must look out for any signs that the child is not at his prime. Is he having trouble sleeping or waking up? Is the child having trouble concentrating? Any change in appetite? Is the child more volatile, moody, or hostile? Any shifts in the child's physical well-being or emotional state may be strong indicators for emotional issues. Investigate the child's entirety as a solid foundation for building self confidence
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